Friday, November 4, 2016

coffee and a chocolate chip cookie..A totally real post

Today is one of those days...my 14 month old is getting in another tooth so was extremely fussy and clingy. We went for a walk which eventually put him to sleep so I'm hoping he gets a good long nap. The house feels like a disaster...there are small bowls and plates on the floor throughout the house that my son has left which I will pick up then later they will be back out. You may be saying stop complaining and put them up higher. First of all there is nowhere else for them and second if its not small plates and bowls its something else hes carrying and leaving on the floor to be picked up. It is  literally just a part of parenthood in my opinion. The dishes are piled high and today is laundry day. Normally Fridays are exciting and relaxing we do laundry and just chill out no stress. For some reason I woke up literally feeling like a zombie..so tired no motivation or energy of course it could be the tiny little girl growing inside me as well...(hehe so excited we are having a girl by the way)
Normally I post something profound or something I've gotten from my bible reading but I have nothing today..not yet anyway.  I just sit here with a chocolate chip cookie  (Annies organic which makes it better for you right!? haha) and a cup of decaf coffee being totally open and real about life today. I'm involved in a bible study and we were saying this past week how you don't see when people have their bad days on social media it's all butterflies and flowers and how great everything is. I admit I don't post a lot on social media and when I do it's nothing negative, but we all have bad days right? Lets be real..not everyday is cupcakes and songs so I decided to be real with you all today because sometimes people are struggling and they need to know they are not the only ones.
Here is my advice take a few minutes to rest drink coffee eat a cookie ( even if you are trying to be fit and healthy) turn some music on and do what needs done with a positive attitude :)
I will leave you with that today...As I do dishes, laundry, pick up the house and take some time to rest and spend time with the Lord. So Turn the music up ( well unless your child is napping) sing and talk to God and relax. You may not feel awesome but just do something and have some coffee and lots of Jesus when you have these days.
I already feel better.. :)

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Enjoy the quietness

well I've been awake for 3 hours already...I decided this morning instead of trying to go back to sleep when Josh leaves for work that I would just make myself do what I've been wanting saying I will do for 2 weeks now. For 2 weeks now I've layed in bed in the mornings trying to talk myself into getting up and starting my day before Copelan wakes up...but I just can't do it. This morning there was victory! I did it at 4 :45 i got up and showered had some breakfast and time in the word. I felt accomplished...7:15 Copelan is still asleep so i pack his lunch for the day get some meat out of the freezer to thaw...me and Luna keep going to the stairs and listening because it is now 7:46 and he's still asleep..this my friends is not normal.
What do I do with all this time of quiet..? I guess I just enjoy it..enjoy the stillness and quietness of the morning before the busyness starts. you see if we don't allow ourselves time for the stillness we tend to go a little crazy. we get tired and worn out and just exhausted, and I will most likely be more tired than normal when afternoon comes but giving myself this time is wise.
 We want to be wise with our choices and our time. This morning as I was studying the book of Deuteronomy I once again was hit with the thought that as a parent I need to make wise decisions and choices. My kids will see the things I do and the way I act and I want to be that example to them.
In Deuteronomy 1:21-22 Moses is talking to all the people and as he's talking he's saying "you" All the adults that were with him when they left Egypt are now dead so hes addressing all of their children.  He says "you" because they take responsibility for their parents sin. So Moses addresses them as if it was them who was rebellious all those years.
- This passage is another clear indication that what we do as parents affects our children and the generations to come. I am not perfect nor will I ever be but I know as a parent I need God's guidance everyday. I will not set unrealistic expectations for myself ( like waking up everyday at 4:45 am) but I will do my best to slow down and set aside time to spend quietly in the presence of God. This will not happen everyday I'm sure of it because some days I am completely exhausted and God knows that but like I said I will try my best and if I wake up early or get time in the afternoon everyday then great but if not I will not stress. God wants us to come to him because we want to not because we have to check something off of our to do list.

Friday, April 1, 2016

The struggle is real..

It's 9:23 am and I've already had a cup of coffee, went on a walk/jog had breakfast and got my little one down for a nap..I feel pretty accomplished! its a little chilly our for a walk but I bundled my little guy up and we just went for a short one which put him to sleep. :) I needed some energy which I knew A nice cool brisk walk would do and he needed a nap. I now feel ready and better about taking on this day..I woke up this morning thinking AHH i just want to sleep! Want to hear something funny..!? Monday I was up at 4:45 not by choice..and I said hey I think I am becoming a morning person this isn't so bad. well now its Friday and I am definitely not a morning person yet.
Here is something I have been trying to do every morning when I hear cope cry and I wake up I immediately thank God for this day and ask him to strengthen me and give me joy and help me to have a great day.
I obvious don't get a giant boost of energy but I am starting my day off right..we can't go through our life or even our day without the help and the strength of God. I actually like waking up early most days and getting the day started. Last weekend I slept in and it totally threw me off. it's still a struggle though to open my eyes and get out of bed when all my body wants to do is sleep.
I am talking about something small like sleep and waking up in the mornings..we all have to wake up in the mornings. Whether it is for work, to get your kids up for school, or your kids wake you up for some reason or another we all have to wake up in the morning at a time we don't want to but there are other things in life we have to do that is a struggle for us. Example* going to work, working with people who are not nice, going to school, school work, looking for a job, making friends, fear of failing, fitting in, trying to be the best we can be..we all struggle with things whatever it may be.
  Something I have told my kids on Sunday mornings a lot is go to God, talk to him, tell him your fears your struggles start your day with him and ask him to help you.  which is why I have been practicing it..i try to practice what I preach.
So I encourage you wherever you are today to tell God about it! :)
Psalm 143:8 Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life
Psalm 5:3 In the morning, O LORD, hear my voice. In the morning I lay my needs in front of you, and I wait.
 Psalm 86:11-12 Teach me your way, LORD, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever.
Psalm 59:16 But as for me, I will sing about your power.Each morning I will sing with joy about your unfailing love.For you have been my refuge, a place of safety when I am in distress.
Thessalonians 5:16-18 Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ms8MSKcPpPU

Thursday, March 31, 2016

I'm a little crazy....there is a little crazy in all of us right!!??

Haven't posted in awhile because of well the busyness of life..Life definitely hasn't slowed down if anything it has sped up a bit. Cope is now almost 7 months old...Wow! Next Tuesday he will be 7 months old..how fast time is going and how fast he is growing. He has his first tooth coming in which we discovered on Sunday. We have been saying he's teething for awhile and now we know.
I feel like in this post I am going to be brutally honest about my life right now as a mom of an almost 7 month old...so no judging..Please! :)
I am finally learning some balance in my life even though everywhere I look is craziness because of all that needs to be done I now  know just take a deep breath, prioritize and do what needs to be done. There are chores to be done around the house, clean up the highchair from breakfast, get everything finished up and emailed out for Sunday morning, and get a shower today. Did I say shower..!!?? yes I did now you must be thinking how hard is it to shower...not to hard i guess..But when I finally think I am going to take one and relax I was exhausted so today it will happen. Last night me and Cope stayed home from church because he was super fussy from teething..so we ate dinner, danced around the house, went outside for a little bit, played then he got tired about 7:30 so we ate an apple together ( he mainly just sucked on it and gnawed a little) then walked around the house until Josh got home then I handed him off and sat on the couch soo tired.
So today will be the day..even though I am sure i will get spit up on again  covered in food from his meals and maybe even get some pee on me..its ok..The shower has been put off long enough!
Who's reading this and thinking wow she's crazy glad I'm not her!? Just so you know it's all worth it..I literally am crying now as I type that sentence. every diaper, every spit up. every cry and long exhausting day is so worth it. Being a mom is the most rewarding thing..How is it rewarding? I make food for Cope, clean up after him, make dinner for us, clean up the house ( Josh helps out a lot) by the end of the night I fall asleep faster than ever. The reward..is the smiles Cope gives me, going into his room in the morning and he looks up at me and smiles so big, and just being the one he cuddles with and depends on. My coffee is cold...
It is a reward to be home with him everyday and spend the time with him and take care of my family in different ways. Wherever you are today..stay at home mom, working mom, expecting mom, wanting to be a mom, trying to figure out life, the woman who needs direction... YOU ARE ENOUGH!  YOU ARE AWESOME! God is working in you and through you..let him give you rest and peace and the energy you need. Trust him! HE LOVES YOU AND HE CREATED YOU FOR A PURPOSE! Give your worries, fears, tears, joy, hectic, crazy, boring, whatever your life may be filled with give it to him let him turn your life into something wonderful and worth telling about. let hm turn your frown upside down..:)  
Psalm 139 1-18
You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain.
Where can I go from your Spirit?
    Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
    if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
    if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
    your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
    and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
    the night will shine like the day,
    for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand
    when I awake, I am still with you.

Friday, February 12, 2016

If there is one thing that I have learned this week...

I just wrote a whole post but erased it all and left this because if there is one thing that this week has taught me it really has been this.   Colossians 4:2 says to continue steadfastly in prayer being watchful in it with thanksgiving. This is the verse for our children's ministry to memorize this month and boy does this short verse say a lot. Continue steadfastly in prayer..The word steadfast means Firm or unwavering, to be loyal. I and you need to continue in prayer without wavering and with commitment. No matter what changes in our lives and how hard life gets commit to prayer..talk to the God who loves you and created you. Make it a priority to commit yourself to prayer on the good days and the bad days. Here is a song that I discovered yesterday and I want to share it you https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=beB-aH8vis8

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

almost an hour

Its's been almost an hour since Copelan has been napping and that's pretty much a record. Very rarely does he sleep for more than 30 min during his day time naps. As I gather my thoughts as fast as I can and type them out faster than normal I contemplate on what this day has already brought and it's only 9:26 am.  It's been almost an hour since the pooptastrophe...yes it says poop! EW! I know pooop everywhere..everyone and everything is now clean. Lets just say I think we need to get some heavy duty diapers. There is so much that has to be done but I'm learning to relax. this is a daily process..If I don't tell myself to relax over something big or even little I get worked up and anxious. I'm not sure why anxiousness and anxiety have decided to enter my life. Since motherhood these 2 things have entered my life and it's taking prayer, and a lot of talking things out to help these leave. 
I feel like I'm moving so slow in life.  What do I mean by this!? Ministry, my spiritual life, my emotions, housework and just being me..it all is a daily process to not get stressed about any of these things and how slow all these things are now. Literally I can't plan things out anymore..When things are planned and they go wrong I get all worked up and lose it. I hate it when I let that happens so again getting things done is something I can't really plan out I just have to do it.
I'm fully relying on God and trusting in him and yes this is hard to do..I can't add my time with God to my to do list but that tends to happen.  Trying to fit praying in to my day is something I'm trying to do while cleaning, and feeding Copelan. It shouldn't be something that is stressed about and planned out.
Evantually things will work out and I will be able to get up before he wakes up in the mornings and start my day off having time with the Lord, but for now I will not stress but will go to God and spend time with him daily in any way that I can. Not as a plan and because I have to or should but because I want to and I so need him to help me and strengthen me. I want to know him more, I want to know my creator more and as much as there is to do it all can wait for just a few minutes. 
part of learning to relax is giving everything over to God and letting him give me rest. So this my friends is not a goal, not a resolution and not a plan this is me saying I'm learning and trying and I need God's help.  You may be reading think I am crazy or you may be right where I am or have been here before and I know this is a season and it's a season for you too. every season brings new surprises obstacles and things to learn so right now these are my obstacles and I am learning through it. In almost an hour..so much will happen
In almost an hour when life is overwhelming I will remember that God is good and he is here with me.

Psalm 91

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High
    will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.[a]
I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,
    my God, in whom I trust.”
Surely he will save you
    from the fowler’s snare
    and from the deadly pestilence.
He will cover you with his feathers,
    and under his wings you will find refuge;
    his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
You will not fear the terror of night,
    nor the arrow that flies by day,
nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,
    nor the plague that destroys at midday.
A thousand may fall at your side,
    ten thousand at your right hand,
    but it will not come near you.
You will only observe with your eyes
    and see the punishment of the wicked.
If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,”
    and you make the Most High your dwelling,
10 no harm will overtake you,
    no disaster will come near your tent.
11 For he will command his angels concerning you
    to guard you in all your ways;
12 they will lift you up in their hands,
    so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
13 You will tread on the lion and the cobra;
    you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
14 “Because he[b] loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him;
    I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
15 He will call on me, and I will answer him;
    I will be with him in trouble,
    I will deliver him and honor him.
16 With long life I will satisfy him
    and show him my salvation.

Monday, January 11, 2016

supermom..?

As I blog a few times through the week my post are just as much for me as they are for all of you. I said a couple of months ago that I wanted to share my journey of motherhood with others. I want my journey to encourage and help others. We see others and compare and think that is what motherhood will be like but when it really happens to us we find out its something completely different , and something we never would have imagined. It's the most wonderful yet tiring thing ever to experience. I started reading a book last night that a lady from our church let me borrow and it is amazing so far and would recommend it to any mother. It's like I wrote those words on the pages because it is exactly how I feel and what I have been going through.
The book is called Tender mercies for a mother's soul by Angela Thomas Guffey. There is a line from the book that I love she says The calling of motherhood is not be supermom but to be a woman of God to your children. This line is how I need to look at things.  I can't be supermom but I can trust and follow God to lead me and show my children that. Everyday is something new now and last week was an emotional rollercoaster but this is a new week. I choose to try harder this week not to be supermom but to let the Lord guide me and lead me and give me rest.
Last night we put Copelan down for a nap around 6 and then we both layed on the couch and took a power nap and that allowed us to be rested up fro the rest of the evening. There was still feedings and playtime before Copelan's actual bed time. There will always be laundry and dishes but sometimes we just need a power nap to fuel us up for the rest of the day or night. This Journey of motherhood in only 4 months and grown me and stretched me and showed me who I am. I am changing for the better..you are supposed to let motherhood change you.  Let yourself become stronger, more patient, more loving, caring, grow in your faith, balance things, forgive easier and do a lot with a little time. These are just a few of the ways motherhood has changed me in these 4 short but long months. Let motherhood change you to be a better person.
http://www.mommysmetime.com/when-motherhood-changes-you-and-why-it-might-not-be-so-terrible/
This a blog that I love reading by a Christian mom.  Very encouraging and great to read as a mom this particular post is about letting mother change you and how it's a good thing. I read this when I was pregnant and have gone back to read it several times since. :) Give it a read!

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

christian rap and coffee

Isnt this kid cute!? Oh how I love him!
I write again as a physically and mentally exhausted mother of a 4 month year old.  Learning how to balance everything has still not gotten much easier..trying to be a stay at home mom and a working from home mom in ministry..kinda tricky!
I'm trying to exercise, rest and eat somewhat healthy ( could definitely do better) I'm also trying to spend time in the word, but between feeding Copelan, his short naps and the attention he needs its becoming very hard not to feel so exhausted and like I literally could lay down and sleep for a day. I'm sure this is my life for awhile..tiredness..I can handle it! Friday Josh is leaving me the car which will be great but then I think where the heck am I going to go..!? Just getting out of the house will be nice so maybe just a trip to walmart wish it was not winter so we could walk.
Oh so my post title why is it so weird..?? Because I literally am listening to Andy mineo, KB, Lecrae and any other Christian rap artist to keep my energy up. So here I am drinking coffee with my robe on listening to rap music and hoping for at least a good 15 min to get some work done.
Here's to rap music and coffee! :)


 

Monday, January 4, 2016

the exhausted woman

Today is Monday...Not only is it Monday but the first day back to work from Holiday break.  Obvioulsy I did not get up this morning and drive to work, but I did get up this morning and got back to normal life while my husband went back to work.  He was home from work for the holidays for 2 weeks so you can only imagine how great it was having him around.  We took turns every other night getting up with Copelan so that was a huge help. Today it's back to mommy and Copelan so I remind myself of one thing..just relax.
If only it was that easy right..!? I'm not talking about sitting on the couch reading with tea or watching a show ( although the first option sounds rather relaxing) I'm talking about slowing down and not worrying and trying to do everything.  Today I have had to push myself to not lay on the couch all day because I am exhausted and I've had to push myself not to rely on coffee all day..I won't allow it!
Relaxing also means not focusing and worrying about how much my back hurts and how tired I am.  If I focus on those then I feel miserable. Relaxing means doing what you can as far as housework goes. I got dishes done and dinner in the crockpot and that is good.  Relaxing means letting Jesus fill my heart with peace and taking comfort in him and his word.  I literally had the excuse pop in my head earlier that I'm to exhausted to spend time with Jesus..What an excuse!!! Laying down or drinking more coffee will only make me grumpy because I still will not feel rested. Taking time to spend with our Lord and Savior needs to be a priority.
All of us women no matter what we do in our daily lives through out the week  are all exhausted no matter what our circumstances and we need to relax and let the Lord rejuvenate us and give us the strength we need to keep going.  If you only have a few minutes of quiet today just read a verse and pray that verse over your life and for those around you.  We put to much pressure on ourselves as women to do to much on every area of our life. Just spend time with Jesus it could be for 10 min 30 minutes or an hour..Just give God your exhaustion and let him fill you up.
Here is a start: Matthew 11:28 Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.

Friday, January 1, 2016

It's a new year

My oh my how time flies...I can't believe it is 2016 already! 2015 was a short year it now feels like..
If there was 2 words I could use to describe 2015 they would be new and exciting.  Last year was a year full of newness and excitement..this time last year we had just revealed to close family and friends that we were expecting.  After trying, praying waiting and trusting in God for 2 years we finally became pregnant.  We literally started the new year off last year by sharing the excitement with the people closest to us.  From there we tried to prepare as much as we could to become parents and welcome our little guy into the world.  He came in the fall and from there we have laughed, cried, had sleepless nights, been worried, scared and so incredibly joyful. I know there are more of all these emotions to come...
2016 is here and we are ready for change and growth. I know this year we will experience so many firsts.  I cherish each moment I have with my family and each moment I am with my son.  Getting up in the mornings ( so early) is no longer dreadful.  Getting out of my comfy warm bed when I am so tired is so worth it when I walk in Copelan's room and he is smiling at me as soon as he hears my voice.  Motherhood has changed me in so many amazing and incredible ways..I'm excited for what this year has. 
It's a new year and I choose to try my best to be healthier, to go deeper in my walk with the Lord, to take one day at a time and cherish every moment that life has for me. Life is overwhelming and tough at times but I choose to take one day at a time and smile big....
It's a new year what do you choose...!?