Monday, July 6, 2020

When life changes

 I've been debating on whether or not to blog about life lately but I decided to go ahead and just go for it..someday someone might need to read this.
We will go back to about 2 years ago when I had some major health issues start that was making life difficult and we felt like we were not able to move forward and progress in life because of my health so after much discussion and prayer, we decided that a hysterectomy was the best decision. This was not easy by any means at all , but we didn't see any way around it. So last November I had a hysterectomy which means I can no longer conceive and I am going through menopause as a 31-year-old.  This was our decision and no person or doctor pushed us into it..I know it is not what doctors would recommend as a treatment for endometriosis which is what I struggled with but it was growing and putting our life on halt it felt like so anyway since then things really haven't been too bad. ( or so I thought )  I went off of the hormone treatment from the doctors because my body wasn't handling it and decided to try out all-natural solutions.  So that is what I've been doing I'm taking several supplements to balance my hormones and also for my pain  (fibro and arthritis )
I am sharing this all and hope to continue because there is no easy solution or quick fix.. I've been doing research and menopause is not common for 31-year-olds so it's hard to find someone/something to relate to. I have an almost 5-year-old son and a 3-year-old daughter so I am definitely not done with needing energy and my days do not allow for alone/quiet/peaceful times.
I get up at 6 am to have my " alone time" which is spending time with the Lord and just having time to myself. The hard thing about this now is that I'm completely exhausted and wake up feeling stressed/overwhelmed/sad for no reason. So today I had to decide to just breathe and take this one day at a time..I know God has more for me and my husband in ministry and in raising our family which is our main ministry.
I know God doesn't call us to live an easy life and going through the hard things grow us and mature us in our faith, so I will constantly ask Lord what are you teaching me as I am learning to have joy when I feel none and have peace when I feel none. Let me please remind you these are all normal menopause symptoms just going through them in this season of life for me is particularly tough. I don't type all of this with tears in my eyes for pity but to share my journey and I hope someone out there reads this one day and will know that they are not alone.
I don't laugh as much and I don't feel like I enjoy my kids at this age they are in as much as I want to...I'm irritated and tired...The lies in my head would tell me that I regret the decisions that were made and keep saying " if only"  " What if " " if only"  " You should have tried other things"
These are lies because we knew the Lord led us to make that decision and now we are navigating through this season and learning how to live a life God has called us to live.
It's a battle in my head constantly but The Lord is greater than my thoughts/emotions and I will trust in Him to be my refuge and strength. The Lord is good and these are the things I preach to myself all day...
Thank you for listening to my rant and I hope this helps someone.

Saturday, April 4, 2020

Take in the quiet

So I’ve been finding myself going through these wave of emotions as I’m sure a lot of you are as well. I’ve been reading and praying but the last few days I’ve really been struggling just trusting in the Lord and trying to keep pressing on everyday. All of our lives have changed lately..we’ve all had to make big changes and it doesn’t something to you when everything around you changes and you have to try and adjust. We all deal with change differently. I know that God never changes and I’m so very thankful that he is always the same and that he is so good!! I know that to be true. I’m not struggling with God and his goodness it’s just in general to keep that in mind and be joyful right now in this time of isolation from family and church family. I was reminded to that we are not isolated from God..he is with us! I decided today when I had about 20 minutes to myself to do some writing.  I used to write a lot when I was in high school to help me process things/situations and just to express what I was feeling. I haven’t done that in a long I decided I needed to give it a try today and it helped. So I would like to share something I wrote and hopefully it encourages someone as I know we are all on this together.
Take in the quiet 
People are saying enjoy the stillness
Take in the quiet 
I feel anything but still 
It’s really not quiet
My mind is restless
My body aches
I’m irritated with life
I want to move
I want to laugh
I want to be excited
Enjoy the stillness
Take in the quiet
Where do you get still? 
How do you find quiet?
Everyone is restless
Everyone aches
Life is irritating 
Let me move
Let me laugh
Let me be excited
Enjoy the stillness
Take in the quiet
I will search for stillness
I will seek to be quiet
I will move
I will laugh
I will be excited
Enjoy the still
Take in the quiet
I can be still
I can move 
I can laugh 
I can be excited
Lord help me to be still, help me find you in the quietness
Even if all is loud
Lord help Move
Lord help me laugh
Lord help me be excited 
Enjoy the still
Enjoy the quiet

Friday, March 20, 2020

Being creative

I have been enjoying time at home with my kids not having/needing to go anywhere. I’ve been making a schedule each night for the next day of crafts and activities we can do and it has helped a lot. The kids have been having fun as well.
Yesterday we read about Daniel (I’ve been reading from my old adventures in Odyssey bible) and then we made a lions den ( basically a pillow and blanket fort) then we made lion masks. We worked on our alphabet by passing a ball back and forth and saying a letter each time we pass.
This morning during breakfast we read about Jospeh and then we made robes like Joseph and then had a lot of craft time :) the kids had a blast today and their creativity has really sparked in the past week of just being home together.
At Noon today their was global prayer for the virus and for people around the world who have been impacted so after lunch the kids painted and me and Josh prayed in the living room. In that 15 minutes span Copelan decided to paint Kate 😂 luckily the paint was washable!
Now as we rest they are upstairs playing doctor with all their stuffed animals. I love hearing them play and laugh together. It’s not always like this..their is fighting, and getting on each other’s nerves so it’s really nice to hear them have fun together.
Families take this time to enjoy each other and be creative with your time.
Here are some fun pictures.

Thursday, February 6, 2020

the days are long

When the kids don't nap and its winter and everyone is up before 8 am the days seem so long. Some long days seem really good most though seem like we are just trying to get through. I write this post mostly because I don't want to forget these days...I just read through some of the old posts ( which I love doing) and I'm glad i wrote on the hard days because some days I still feel like I did when they were just babies ( crazy)
Today kids did lots of crafts and of course made a mess while I got my lesson for Sunday finished which of course took way longer than it would if I was sitting by myself haha but then we played some games and then read books and then i made lunch and extra meat for the week.
My kids don't nap normally ( its always really great when they do) but we have "rest time" which really means they have to stay upstairs so I can have 15 min of quiet.
I love hearing them play together anud talk together..wish I could just record it and never forget their little conversations.
Copelan just found valentines day cards and said that was so much fun last year, and Kate wants to give one to C.J.
I love that they are creative and fun and have their own thoughts and I hope they keep continuing in that.

Friday, October 11, 2019

two right shoes

First of all I will start off by saying that this is not a post about me whining or complaining this is simply real life and I felt like I wanted to share today.  Most of my days feel a little frazzled no matter how I plan or how hard I try to plan something comes up or changes or the kids are just wild..LOL
I would love to say that what I'm about to post are rare occasions but it's normal life for me. 
Almost everyday of the week we have an appointment and on Thursdays we have homeschool Co op so we stay very busy and when we go out of town I try to pack lunches and make a day of it. Today the kids were fighting so much so I knew packing lunches would be chaotic so I opted for stopping at Kroger for lunchables instead. So we get the car cart and the kids are sitting close together so of course we are only getting goldfish and lunchables but when the kids are yelling and fighting you can't seem to get out of there fast enough...So as I'm trying to look at something for me that I end up just putting back because someone took someone else's i grab the goldfish and throw them in the cart and said please stop we are leaving now.  It wasn't quite a yell but my voice was a little raised and I look up and this lady is just glaring at me with judgy eyes (it seemed) So we go to checkout and I'm not mad or angry at my kids and they are laughing but I'm still getting this I just brush it off or try ya caught me at a bad time and my kids on a wild what!?
It's alright so we make our way to Findlay and it's raining of course so we can't have our picnic lunch it's ok so I tell the kids they can eat lunchables in the car then we will just go to the library when we get back in town. That worked! well we get to the chiropractor and he goes to adjust Copelan and he has 2 of the same shoes but different sizes and both are for the right feet...made him put his own shoes on today and looked how that turned out...HAHA yeah I was a little embarrassed but I just laughed it off.
I got my coffee kids fought most of the way home and i just turned my music up and we got to library and all was well until I hit my ankle on a book shelf when I sat down to help Copelan on the computer so I'm now sitting here with a bag of frozen strawberries on my ankle hoping the swelling goes down and that it goes away.......When you chronic pain you have a high pain tolerance but when you get one little bruise or hit something your body reacts differently than someone who doesn't have chronic pain/autoimmune disorders.  so one little bump has caused my foot to swell and my right leg to be in pain.  But it really is kids are thankfully napping for this first time in 2 weeks haha so hopefully my foot will recover.
We all have these days whether we are moms or not..we wear 2 right shoes, wear our shirts inside out, forget lunch,realize there is nothing to eat for dinner in your house, the laundry is piled up, you leave and realize there is a stain on your clothes or you just woke up late and didn't get your coffee.  We all have these days and sometimes we can shrug it off and go on and other times we show a little bit of our frazzled mess when we are out in the stores or wherever...Don't jusdge others just smile at them, and when you are the one having that day just take a breath and say it's ok. 
The great thing is God sees this crazy frazzled mess and he loves I come to him and ask him to help me to have patience and as i replay the scenes of today in my head I know tomorrow will be a new day and a new start

Saturday, September 21, 2019

Apples & crafts

Well I’m so happy fall is continuing to arrive..I love the fall weather. I’m loving the fun and adventures we are having everyday. The fun thing at this age with the kids is that sometimes no matter how well you schedule or plan out it doesn’t always go that everyday is something new and different.
Monday we went to an Apple orchard and it was super fun. It was really hot out..but the kids had a blast plus we came home with a ton of apples for eating and apple activities this week. We leaned the letter A and did apple stamping and apple bobbing with tongs and the kids especially copelan loved both of those activities.
Copelan is loving to do crafts lately which makes me happy. He knows right where the supplies is and gets what he needs out and makes lots of “projects”.  I have a Pinterest board called adventures in babysitting because I used to babysit and I loved doing fun and new things with them everyday but now I get to do all that fun stuff with my little ones. Don’t get me wrong it’s a lot of work especially with the age they are at..we have to keep going from one activity to he next one. But it’s definitely fun and worth it. I love seeing what they learn and how different they are.
They are loving the homeschool co op that we are involved in on Thursdays. They loving having school and being with friends, and I get to teach the preschool class and it’s a blast.
Ready to see some pictures from our adventures!?

Wednesday, September 4, 2019

Beautiful fall days

The transition from summer to fall came surprisingly fast I have to say, but I absolutely love fall and this year taking it all in with my two littles has so far been adventurous and enjoyable. I’m excited for what is to come in this new season of fall and of homeschooling. I’m learning so much everyday about myself, the Lord, my kids and our family.  Some days feel pretty tough I will admit but I also know that it really is just a season and I’m enjoying the ups and even the downs.
We’ve had s really fun week so far and I just wanted to share some of our fun :)
Yesterday we painted not on paper like we normally would but on the sidewalk on they painted all over themselves. Tots finger paint was awesome for this.
Today we went on a nature scavenger hunt and the kids had a blast.
And the best way to end an evening in my world is outside reading a book while the kids are happy ❤️